“But when we’re intimidated, scared, and overwhelmed, most of us resort to our default behaviors because, well, we always have, and they are there.”
Daphne Rose Kingman
“More than one hundred million prescriptions for antidepressants will be written this year… Ten million people in the United States are now considered morbidly obese… One in thirteen adults in the United States is an alcoholic.”
“Default behaviors are coping mechanisms, habitual responses that we developed at some point in our lives.”
(The Ten Things To Do When Your Life Falls Apart)
Defaults play out in six life themes:
I was able to identify mine right away… REJECTION. It has played out as far back as I can remember. Any situation that caused me consistent pain, I would slowly check out and reject the person, place or thing. I’ve done it to family, friends, lovers, even places where I don’t feel comfortable, and things that stress me… I disconnect from them. I know who I am and I have always been comfortable with myself. I know what I want, and I tend to not let people, or things get in my way… I find a way to remove them. I have had friends who have jokingly ridiculed me for being “me”, tried to tell me how I should be living my life, and at times made fun of me. I knew it was time to reject them, let them go. To this day they probably still have no clue as to what happened.
I am not self centered, however, I just don’t want to repeatedly keep myself in situations that cause me hurt and distress. Why do that? If you feel the need to bring me down, make me feel unworthy and displace me by favoring others… why continue such a destructive cycle? I don’t need, or want you in my life. Rejection is my default.
The Root Chakra
The Root Chakra is at the base of the spine. It represents very basic instincts of survival, trust, safety, family loyalty, and new beginnings. It is represented by the color red. Change your life by looking at the wisdom of the first chakra to see where you may be blocked, or may be held back by beliefs. Your body can show you if fear is holding you to patterns that don’t serve your higher good.
Party One: What do you want now?
Party Two: Nothing… absolutely nothing. Goodbye.